Emotions control our everyday life. A rainbow can make you happy, seeing a homeless person can produce sadness or sitting in endless traffic can evoke anger! While feeling emotions is not a bad thing, it becomes a problem when you allow them to take over your life.
Ponder how you react to everyday situations. Do you think through your challenges or do you immediately react? Understanding your emotions, how you respond to them and how to manage them can help you become emotionally strong.
Let's discuss a few ways you can begin to take control of your emotions.
1. Identify situations that cause you to react
What are the specific instances that cause you to have a reactive emotion? It could be with your family, friends or workmates. Maybe it's an everyday environment you are in such as commuting to work. Whatever it is first acknowledge it.
2. Figure out a new way to cope
Next find a new way to handle triggers. If you know sitting in traffic makes your blood boil first prepare your mind for the commute. Say to yourself "Okay I know I don't like this but soon I will be home." Next set up your car ride to be enjoyable. Try putting together a playlist of your favorite songs and jam as you drive. You can apply this method to any circumstance.
3. Practice deep breathing
Unseen emotions may still creep up from time to time and that's completely normal. When that happens slow down and B R E A T H E! This practice works best by breathing in slowly for 10 seconds through your nose, holding your breath for 10 seconds, then releasing your breath through your mouth for 10 seconds. Repeat this a few times until you feel grounded again.
4. Recite affirmations
Choose a few affirmations that will help you shift your thinking. Here are a few you can use: I am in control of my emotions, I have everything I need to overcome this challenge, I can take things one step at a time, Today I will not stress over things I cannot control, I have the ability to solve every problem I face. Doing this will help tremendously in managing your emotions trust me I do this often.
5. Don't be so hard on yourself
The worst thing you can do is beat yourself up. We all experience unexpected emotions myself included so don't judge yourself. Instead make a conscious to make a change and know that you"ll be okay.
You are capable of changing and learning to manage you r emotions. It may take a little more effort in the beginning but before you know it you'll be a pro!